Everybody loves a wedding shower. Old friends who have moved away get a chance to giggle with the girls again. The ones who are married reminisce about their own weddings, and the ones who aren't married vow they never will be. At a couples shower, the guys all laugh when your fiance opens the box with the potholders. The girls laugh, too, since they know he's a better cook than you are.Showers have all the joy of a wedding without the jitters. You can relax and enjoy being surrounded by your favorite people. Your shower may be hosted by our attendants, other good friends, co-workers or even by your church. Relatives, except for your immediate family, may also plan showers for you. It's not considered proper for immediate family members to host a shower, so go by the traditions in your hometown. After all, whoever gives the shower, it's guaranteed to be a great time.   If you are having more than one shower, make at least one of them a couples shower, so your fiance can join in the fun, too. Anyone who is invited to a shower should be invited to the wedding. Office showers are an exception. Who' s Invited? Invite your closest friends and family. If you are having more than one shower, try to invite different friends to each event. Make sure anyone who's invited to more than one shower knows she doesn't need to bring a gift to each one. Grooms like to be included in the fun these days, too. So try to hint that you'd like at least one shower to be for couples. If the shower is at the office - yours or his - limit the guest list to co-workers. Be sure to ask your hostess how many people she'd like to invite. Then when she asks you for your list, stick to that number. Sometimes a smaller group is more fun anyway, because everyone gets a chance to catch up. Take time to appreciate the effort your hostess has put into making your shower special. Make sure someone is planning to bring a camera and has plenty of film. Sit back and enjoy being pampered. Here's a tradition you might like to incorporate into one of your showers: gather all the ribbons and bows from your gifts and make them into a pretend-bouquet to carry at the wedding rehearsal. Shower Tips Ask friends to go in together on one or two big showers, rather than hosting lots of small ones. Encourage your hostess to choose a shower theme. It will liven up the party and give your friends gift ideas. Invite guests who know one another - or at least one other person besides you. Arrive at the party on time so you can introduce your hostess to guests she may not know. Ask your maid of honor or another guest to keep a list of the gifts you receive so you can write thank you notes. Be sure to spend time with all of your guests. Your fiance's cousin, who doesn't know many people, will surely appreciate it. Open each gift enthusiastically. And be ready with a laugh and a comment about how you can "always use" two (or four) toasters. Plan to send your hostess flowers or take her a small gift of thanks the day after the shower.                               ã 2002-2008 RHS Enterprises, Inc.